Toxic: “Used to describe a person who is tainted by a subconscious malevolence or psychosis that affects the lives of those who come into contact with them.” – Pete Bog Man, Toxic, Sept. 9, 2015, www.urbandictionary.com
It goes without saying that there are many types of toxic people in this world. Some may be your own friends, family, co-workers or even just people you interact with in the run of a day. Needless to say, the interactions we have in dealing with these types of people can affect us in various and negative ways – some ways in which we might not even understand or notice at the time. Choosing how to deal with these types of toxic people is key and we must not let their behavior and/or actions towards us bring us down negatively. Easier said than done, right?
Well, take it from me it is possible.. I have had my fair share of experience in dealing with self-destructive, disrespectful and even sometimes violent, toxic people. There is nothing worse however when it can come from your own family members for we rely on and respect what our family has to say or thinks about us. People who do or say hurtful things in the heat of the moment generally have issues themselves – things that are going on with them that you may or may not know about at the time or there are underlying mental health issues that haven’t yet been dealt with. Whatever the case may be, we all must remember that hurtful words, violent outbursts or any type of negative and harmful actions are not acceptable and cannot be withdrawn once they have been said or the action has been carried out.
In speaking with friends and co-workers it seems that at one point or other in their lives, they have been made to feel like they will never become something or amount to anything. They will never be anything more than the failure their brother, sister, mother, father, etc. has become. This is a lie. Never, ever allow yourself to believe these unjust words. Do not give it a second thought. We as human beings were put on this earth for a reason. I believe that reason is to make this world a better place, not to succumb to the harshness of others and their words or actions against us. To rise up and conquer against all odds! To make anyone who has ever felt less than or unworthy, to know that they matter and they are destined for greatness! It does not mean we all must strive to become doctors, therapists or cops – we must simply become the best that we will allow ourselves to be. Carry out each moment with conviction and kindness. Do what you can in this life time to make others happy, but first and foremost, we must also make ourselves happy!
We will be tested along the way. We will come into contact with various types of negative people who seem to want to bring us down or burden us with their negativity, but we must look past that. In that moment, we need take a second to understand why this person would do or say such hurtful things towards us. That’s not to say that we must look past their words or behavior and accept it – let it be known that you will not tolerate that kind of toxicity in your life and then move on from it. Some people tend to lurk in the darkest corners of themselves and will do or say anything to bring those around them down to their level so they can temporarily feel better. But they never do. It is a vicious cycle – an unending toxic loop that they get caught up in and can’t fight their way out. For these people, my heart goes out to them. Do what you can to help them see that they are better than this and can rise up, just as you have from these dark moments of self doubt.
“You are deserving, you are lovable and you are great! Don’t let a toxic person affect you to the point that you forget that.” – Bohemianfluff
I hope this blog has helped with anyone who is going through these struggles of self doubt or who may be tormented by harsh words or actions of those around them. You will get through this, you just need to believe in yourself.
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~ Lots of love ~